The most essential duty you'll ever have as a parent is parenting. Because you care so much and want to do it correctly, it's natural to be nervous or make comparisons from time to time. But, sadly, you're probably doing a lot more right than you realize.
If you find yourself comparing your new role as a parent to your previous roles at work or with friends, try not to let it get you down. The reality is that becoming a new parent gives you the chance to do something new and build new relationships. Being new parents means new opportunities to learn new things, which is ultimately what parenting is all about.
Confidence is a must-have for parents. Your youngster will feel more free to be a kid when you exude confidence. They feel secure expressing strong emotions since they know you can handle them. Confidence in parenting does not imply that you are always aware of what to say or how to react. What it means is that you believe you will find a way to be there for your little one. You have a new perspective on life and new purpose--raising your child.
Every relationship between a kid and his or her parent is distinctive. Here are some suggestions for building your confidence as a parent.
- Stay calm and feel your best
Children can sense a parent's nervousness or discomfort. They may also pick up on any guilt you have about life beyond parenting, such as work stress. No matter what new challenges you face as a new parent, it is important to relax and enjoy your new role as a family member. Make time each day to look after yourself. Eat well, exercise and get enough sleep.
- Take time for new routines
As new parents, you want to do everything possible to care for your new baby. You may feel pressure to make sure that every new routine is done at the right times or in the correct ways. But it's okay to be flexible with new routines. If your new baby is crying for two hours after finishing a new feeding routine, it's okay to try something else.
- Do not feel guilty about anything
As new parents, you tend to blame yourself for everything that does not go perfectly. While some guilt is normal, do not beat yourself up if you are struggling or have questions.
- Listen to your child and trust your instincts
You'll have a better idea of how to best help your kid by observing their actions and paying attention to what they're saying. You are the expert on your child.
- Do not fall into the comparison trap
Parents who are new to the game tend to compare their new babies with other new babies. But know that every baby is different and special in their own way.
Remember that confidence in your parenting stems from experience. It's fine if you make errors or aren't perfect at all. Trust your instincts and build a village of support by observing and listening to your child.
By: April Carson